Turning Pain Into Pleasure: From OUCH To Oooooo…

For most kinky sex and BDSM beginning bottoms, pain is not an instant turn on.  You may have read plenty of articles waxing lyrical about how hot pain is and how many stratospheric orgasms you can have if the beating is just right… but the first time that hand, paddle or flogger comes down on… Continue reading Turning Pain Into Pleasure: From OUCH To Oooooo…

Tell Me About Polyamorous Dominant/submissive (D/s) Relationships

Are there polyamorous D/s (dominant submissive) relationships? Yes there are. Polyamorous D/s relationships come in an infinite number of configurations.  For more about how different open relationships might look, you can find one of my articles here and a series of podcasts here. D/s relationships are ones in which dominance and submission are the primary… Continue reading Tell Me About Polyamorous Dominant/submissive (D/s) Relationships

Here’s What Guy’s Find So Freakin’ HOT About Rough BDSM Sex

With so many mixed messages between men and women, what is this really about? It seems that since 50 Shades of Grey became popular, rough sex and BDSM (Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/submission, Sadism/Masochism) have hit the mainstream. References can be found everywhere from Cosmopolitan to The Guardian newspaper. The desire for rough sex is NOT new. Want… Continue reading Here’s What Guy’s Find So Freakin’ HOT About Rough BDSM Sex

A is for Arousal

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A is for Arousal which is where sex begins.  There is no sex without arousal.  Arousal begins in the mind.  Even for those of us who first experience arousal through visual means – seeing someone we find attractive, for example.  Vision is not simply in the eyes.  The eyes are one part of the visual… Continue reading A is for Arousal

5 Essential Facts You Need to Know about Kissing

1 Couples who enjoy kissing and do it well have healthier relationships Kissing is one of the most intimate acts we perform as human beings. We kiss to demonstrate affection, to demonstrate desire and to increase desire. Darwin wrote about kissing and kissing-like behaviours. These include rubbing noses, sniffing the other person. Usually we talk… Continue reading 5 Essential Facts You Need to Know about Kissing