In the 21stcentury, all varieties of consensual nonmonogamy have become trendy. From Cosmopolitanto The New York Timesto The Guardianarticles and exposés about polyamory abound. Over and over, I read about the best ways and even the right way to do nonmonogamy and polyamorous relationships. As a sex & intimacy coach and a psychologist therapist who works with individuals, couples and… Continue reading Structuring Polyamorous Relationships: Can We Really Remove Hierarchy?
Polyamorous relationships come in an infinite number of configurations. For more about how different open relationships might look including an owner loaner relationship, you can find one of my articles hereand a seriesof podcastshere. D/s relationships are ones in which dominance and submission are the primary feature. D/s relationships are authority transfer based relationships because the submissive gives authority over… Continue reading Non-Monogamy and Hierarchical Relationships: From Polyamory to Owner Loaner Model
One of the things I have noticed over the past number of years is how often a simple relationship mistake can bring drama with a capital D that lasts for ages. Often these mistakes fall into a few obvious categories. 1 It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to get permission. This quote… Continue reading Common Mistakes People in Non-Monogamous Relationships Make that Can Bring the Drama
I have written about polyamorous D/s relationships in the past. Recently, in a mentoring session with the head of the leather household, House of Trei, Choc Trei, polyamory in a full Master/slave or Owner/property authority transfer based relationship came up as part of a discussion of their House tour. The discussion raised new points and… Continue reading Polyamory in Authority Transfer Based Relationships
People often become confused about the language used around non-monogamy and polyamorous networks of relationships. I will start with a disclaimer: Language changes quickly. New terms are added faster as the internet expands. These terms and polyamorous definitions are up to date at the time of writing. However, your mileage may vary. With that said,… Continue reading Polyamory Language & Terms +Polyamorous Defined